• To identify what is a healthy versus unhealthy relationship
  • To understand the importance of vulnerability
  • To understand the importance of healthy social relationships

Show the clip time (3:12-5:35) in the following video:

Brene Brown: The power of vulnerability

Have students break into pairs of their own choosing. If an odd number, have the sponsor pair up with the final student.

Share the following with the group: According to Brene Brown, “connection and vulnerability are linked. The more vulnerable the relationship, the deeper the connection can be.” We are going to experiment with vulnerability in relationships.

The following five questions are sampled from the scientific study “How to fall in love with anybody in 36 questions”, a study that sought to see if two strangers could fall in love over the course of 36 vulnerable questions. According to the study, “given the vulnerability required in answering the questions, connections are sparked.

Give the students 10 minutes to ask each other (in their chosen pairs) the following questions:

  • What do you value most in a friendship?
  • If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
  • What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
  • If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
  • What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?


Bring the group back together to discuss the following questions:

  • What was it like to connect with your partner?
  • Did you learn anything you previously did not know about your partner?
  • Did you experience a little bit more vulnerability with these questions than normal conversation?
  • Did that hurt or help the connection with the other person?

If interested, students can see the other questions: 36 questions