- To identify what is a healthy versus unhealthy relationship
- To understand the importance of healthy social relationships
human chair 5-7 min
- A relatively large open space will be need for this activity. Feel free to move around desks so that space is available.
- Arrange all students into a circle. Have the students stand close to one another, each student will be facing the back of the student in front of them.
- Then on the count of three, have everyone sit (on the lap of the person standing behind them). This needs to be done in unison or part of your circle will fall on the ground (which can be fun, too).
- Practice until you’ve successfully completed the human chair and everyone is sitting and stable on someone else’s lap.
- Was it difficult to complete this challenge?
- Were there any tricks or tips you used to help the person in front land on you and land on the person behind you?
- What can this activity say about forming healthy relationships with your peers?
Healthy Relationships 10-15 min
- Show the clip time (3:12-5:35) in the following video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
Brene Brown: The power of vulnerability
Have students break into pairs of their own choosing. If an odd number, have the sponsor pair up with the final student.
Share the following with the group: According to Brene Brown, “connection and vulnerability are linked. The more vulnerable the relationship, the deeper the connection can be.” We are going to experiment with vulnerability in relationships.
The following five questions are sampled from the scientific study “How to fall in love with anybody in 36 questions”, a study that sought to see if two strangers could fall in love over the course of 36 vulnerable questions. According to the study, “given the vulnerability required in answering the questions, connections are sparked.”
Give the students 10 minutes to ask each other (in their chosen pairs) the following questions:
- What do you value most in a friendship?
- If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
- What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
- If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
- What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
Bring the group back together to discuss the following questions:
- How was it to connect with your partner?
- Did you learn anything you previously did not know about your partner?
- Did you experience a little bit more vulnerability with these questions than normal conversation?
- Did that hurt or help the connection with the other person?
If interested, students can see the other questions: 36 questions
Tweets 5-10 min
- In the same groups as the Discussion above, create tweets (140 characters or less) to describe what a healthy social relationship is, using the Todays Tweet worksheet to complete.
- If comfortable, share the tweets as a group. If the sponsor feels that the tweets are appropriate, consider sharing the tweets on the school or club’s group twitter account.
- respect effect app: https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/respect-effect/id994909444?mt=8
- 36 Questions: https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html
- Power of Vulnerability, Brene Brown: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o